Why do I feel no desire

Why do I experience reduced desire?

It's perfectly normal to lose interest sometimes, and it happens to most of us at times in our lives. Often, a loss of sex drive is due to stress, feeling tired, relationship problems, but hormonal changes such as menopause or falling testosterone levels are also common causes. There are many things you can do yourself to get your sex drive back, and we'll help you do that in this article. It's important to stress that there is no such thing as a "normal" sex drive, we all have different levels of sex drive to begin with.

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Problems in the relationship

This is by far one of the most common reasons for a period of reduced or complete sex drive. If you and your partner have a lot of unresolved issues or bicker and argue a lot, this can lead to stress and reduced sex drive. This is where couples therapy, for example, can be a good option to get to the bottom of the problems and open up communication. Another tip is to actively think more about sex because the more you think about sex, the more sex drive you will have.

Stress and fatigue

Stress in everyday life is also a very common cause of reduced sex drive. We live at a fast pace, constantly juggling to make life work. Prolonged stress leads to increased levels of stress hormones in the body and decreased levels of feel-good hormones, which can reduce sex drive. Being constantly tired and worn out also makes it difficult to access the senses of desire. Sleep and recovery are super important to keep hormones in balance so try to prioritise good sleep and maybe some relaxation exercises to help you wind down in the evenings?


As women enter menopause, levels of the hormone oestrogen drop, which can lead to reduced sex drive and even dry mucous membranes. Many people go through the menopause with a number of troublesome symptoms, with dry mucous membranes being very common and can cause pain during intercourse and simply not wanting to have sex. There are many things you can do to relieve dry mucous membranes and support your body during this period of your life. There are many good moisturising oils, intimate creams and lubricants to help during intercourse, but you can also help your body from the inside with omega-7-rich sea buckthorn oil, for example. You could say that sea buckthorn oil lubricates the mucous membranes from the inside. Biotin and vitamin A also have an important function for our mucous membranes. You can help your body to regain balance with exercise, a healthy diet, supplements, etc., which in turn makes it easier to regain your sex drive.

Declining testosterone levels

After about the age of 40, testosterone levels begin to drop in men, which is perfectly natural. Low testosterone levels can also be caused by obesity, depression, cardiovascular problems and certain diseases. Lack of sleep and poor diet can also affect testosterone levels in the body in some cases. Testosterone is a very important hormone for sexual desire and energy and levels can be easily measured by blood tests.


Medical treatment with certain types of drugs can lead to a decrease in sex drive. Common examples are SSRIs (antidepressants), blood pressure medications and diuretics. Talk to your doctor if you feel that your medication is affecting your sex drive and see if there are other options with fewer side effects.

There are also other common causes such as having recently given birth, certain contraceptive methods, mental illness, alcohol, drugs and various medical conditions.

Tips and advice

  • Regular exercise - Find a form of exercise that suits you
  • Prioritise sleep and recovery
  • Eat nutritious and varied food - With stable energy levels, it is easier to find your way back to the desire for a functioning love life
  • Do things that make you feel good - What makes you happy?
  • Nurturing your relationship - Communicate with your partner about what you need to get the spark back
  • Supplements - Some nutrients are particularly important for sex drive, but there are also specific products designed to increase sex drive
  • Quit smoking (if you smoke) - Smoking can cause reduced sex drive

And remember, it's very common to lose interest at times. It happens to all of us and shouldn't be taboo or something you should feel bad about. It's just a matter of working out what's causing it and finding the right solution for you.